Kino Escalation

Kino is short for kinesthetic and simply means physical contact. As indicated by the triangle of seduction, kino is one of the two ways in which escalation takes place. Hence, kino is one of the most important parts of the pick up, if not the most important part. Without kino, there will never be any sex - you can't go from no physical contact at all to sex in one step. On the other hand, kino escalation needs to take place in incremental steps, so that it is perceived as smooth. From your perspective, you need kino calibration.

Thus we need to talk about kino steps, but before that, there are two important things that need to be mentioned. Firstly, kino takes place very early, and is done in most situations (modules). You can and should establish kino with your girl while 1-on-1 with her, and many times you should also do it before that, while you are talking to her group of friends. This is also where the second thing needs to be mentioned: there is brushing and holding. I used to call this unintentional and intentional kino, depending on how the kino was perceived by others. Now I realize this is not the interesting distinction; it does not matter whether they perceive you as having intentional or unintentional kino. What matters is not if others, in particular the girl you are touching, thinks you are doing it on purpose or not. It only depends on whether you make her feel uncomfortable about it or not. In a sense it's about frame/alphaness weighted against comfort/privacy. On the one hand, having too little kino (the typical mistake) means no escalation occurs. On the other hand, escalating too aggressively is intimidating and breaks the smooth escalation.

Early on, you'll only do brushing, the exception being when you have an excuse for holding her. Examples of excuses to hold her hand are palm reading and hand massage (although I personally think these two things are pretty uncool to do in a club). Start by brushing her arms and shoulders with your hands while talking. Make it natural - if you only touch while verbally pausing, this will come across as awkward to her and she'll feel uncomfortable, thus breaking your kino escalation. Her arms and shoulders are naturally more exposed and less private than the rest of her body, she will not object (verbally or physically) to light brushing if you are calibrated. You can do high fives when you want to give her an implicit qualifier too. While you are talking to her friends about her (regardless of who initiated the topic) you can't put your hand on the girl's shoulder, but let go after a while as you don't want to be trying too hard. Keep it casual in the beginning. Girls will experience you as a naturally touchy person, and this will make them feel comfortable with your kino. It is therefore of great help to also touch your male friends as you are talking to them (put a hand on their back or shoulder for example). Another important way in which you can touch her is while teasing her: when you say something playful and she feels teased by you, you can smile and touch her playfully. This only adds to the vibe while also initiating the necessary kino escalation.

There are also some other more specific kino techniques:

1. Proximity
   
2. Spin
   
3. Cheek kiss
   

Proximity is something I naturally developed through conversations in loud clubs: I would sometimes not be able to hear what the girl was saying, and instead of leaning in, I would turn my body slightly to the side, turn my head 90 degrees to the side (so that my left ear would be facing her), lean my head forward slightly, put my arm on her back and gently push her towards me. This is of course from the frame "I can't hear what you are saying". Many girls would unconsciously reciprocate by putting their hand on my back, revealing a physical attraction. If they don't touch back nothing has been lost, as she gets a little closer you get an indication for her level of interest, because you can see how much distance she keeps, and you'll simply remove your hand from her back after a couple of seconds (but leave it there are few extra seconds to probe).

Spin is exactly what is sounds like: you make the girl spin around 360 degrees by taking one of her hands and pulling your arm over and around her. You can start by interrupting yourself in the middle of a sentence, look slightly suspicious (but not in a weird way), and then say "give me your hand..." and put up your hand. If she takes it, you make her spin. If she refuses to take your hand, you say: "you seem to have big hands, I just wanted to compare with my own, never mind" and go back to your original conversation without any break (don't wait for a reaction, be nonreactive). In accordance to the rules of reward and punishment, you punish her for bad behavior by indicate disinterest (not complying to your request for her hand is an indication of disinterest, hence bad behavior), and reward good behavior, usually by giving her a compliment. I usually only say "nice!" after she's made a spin, then go back to my original story.

Sometimes girls have to go to the bathroom. This can be confusing as you know you are going to look stupid if you wait for her, but at the same time, if she asks you too, it means she really wants to see you again. You could tell her to find you later but this is not a good solution, as you - as the man - are responsible for the escalation, not her. So you might have to sacrifice some value for escalation. After all, value is only valuable because it can be converted into sex. Tell her you'll wait for her "around this area, she'll find you easily", then turn your cheek against her, and point towards it with your finger to indicate you want a kiss on the cheek. She'll give you one before she leaves. You may ask for another one on the other cheek and then even one on the mouth, if you think you can get away with it. Then approach another group of girls (or a lone wolf) and start building attraction. Get light kino (brushing) with them as well, so that your girl will see them touching you when she comes back from the bathroom.

The techniques mentioned so far are great because they don't require any to very little reciprocation. Hence, you can and should start using them very early. After a while it becomes necessary to use some heavier form of kino however. You'll be surprised at how much you can get away with using proper kino calibration. Here are the heavy kino steps, in a chain that naturally lead up to kissing:

1. Hand holding while moving around in the club
   
2. Hand holding while talking
3. Holding waist/back while talking
   
4. Holding each other front-to-front
5. Brushing faces while whispering front-to-front
   
6. Kissing

If you start hand holding while talking, you can naturally escalating to holding both her hands standing front-to-front (and similarly if you are holding her waist and she is touching yours back). When you are talking front-to-front and holding each other in some way, you can naturally get closer to her until you brush faces while talking softly or whispering. From there it is very natural to start kissing.

One word of warning though: you may be touching each others hands or waists while talking but not find a natural way to get fully front-to-front with her, or be standing front-to-front but not be able to naturally get closer. That doesn't matter: you shouldn't try to escalate up until kissing in the club anyway. If there is natural kino escalation that leads up to kissing (almost always some variation of the steps outlined here) then you should kiss her (otherwise your insecurities will make her feel uncomfortable!), but if you stall somewhere in heavy kino, it's not a problem. Some girls won't kiss you until in foreplay, or even sex. The point is that light kino is more or less essential, and heavy kino is very helpful in escalation, kissing is by no means a necessary step before extraction or anything else for that matter. Kissing is not part of the module-based game; you can go from no communication to sex without any form of kissing if necessary. If you are trying to get an extraction from physical attraction-game, then you obviously want to kino escalate as fast and heavily as possible until extraction (depending on the situation you may or may not want to arouse her before extraction). When you do identity-based game, heavy kino is still important but you are in no rush: usually this kind of game stretches over multiple days and so will your kino escalation, all the way up until the final kino step: sex (see foreplay for the seduction kino steps).