Triangle of Seduction

The triangle of seduction is one of the most fundamental views on pick up. When I asked myself what are the (interesting) things that actually happen during a pick up, I found that there are only 3 things worth doing:

1. Your investments into the interaction.
2. Others investments into the interaction.
3. Escalation.

The interaction is the (possibly non-verbal) communication between you and the group or girl you are addressing. The communication link can be two seconds or many hours; it is still an interaction. By investments, I mean any form of time and energy put into the interaction.

The separation into your investments versus theirs is because of the following important observation: the one who invests into an interaction is always the one that gives something. Thus you become interesting by investing in interesting stories, but you can also become boring by investing in uninteresting stories, or try-hard by investing too much without requiring anything back. This is called dancing monkey syndrome and is quite common among guys that have just learnt game.

On the other end are the clueless guys who don't know anything about game. They don't invest anything, simply because they don't have anything to invest. Instead they force girls to invest by asking lots of unrelated questions: "where are you from?", "come here often?", "are you having fun?". When they do invest, it will be one of two things: either a compliment that will usually come across as non-genuine, or offering a drink. It is interesting to note that the one thing girls do fall for: the person (identity), is the one thing that most guys do not talk about.

When you invest, you should invest in the following:

1. Identity (see Identity: conveying value)
   
2. Interesting: games, cold readings, fun facts.
   
3. Humor: stories/jokes, playfulness, teasing.
4. Projections: role playing, bullshitting.

When you want others to invest, you bait them into doing so. This can be done using the following:

1. Direct questions/requests.
2. Indirect guidance through rewards and punishment.
   
3. Challenges (usually playfully so they will be more likely to comply).
   

Then there is the one thing that really matters - the top of the triangle - because it is what leads to sex: escalation. Investments are only there to make escalation possible when needed. Sometimes no investments are needed, you can simply escalate without anything else (a tactic known as cavemanning, this is possible when there is a lot of physical attraction with party sluts). At other times, you'll need to pump either pump girls into state (party chicks) or build value (librarian types) with the techniques above.

By escalation, we are of course talking about kino escalation here. But there is also another form of escalation: connection building (see Sexual Comfort). This is also escalation because connection brings you closer to sex: the more connection you have, the stronger she perceives the pair bond, the more susceptible to seduction she will become. Escalation through connection must be initiated through commonalities and grounding, so that investments are necessary. However, the experienced connection can from then and onwards grow through only spending time together, or even apart from each other because of longing.