Sexual Charisma

The concept of sexual charisma comes from the realization that no girl will sleep with a guy that she considers to be non-sexual. Put different, a girl has to be able to imagine you having sex with girls (perhaps herself) in order to have sex with you. It's obvious that when a girl says "Oh I can't imagine him having sex!", it's not a compliment to the guy she's referring to. So at the very least, we have to be sexually appealing, and to be so, we have to have sexual charisma. Sexual charisma is one of those things that are hard to grasp; most people would say "some have it, others don't", and it's actually quite close to the truth. You can change it, but it's very hard. Let us start with the basics; sexual charisma consists of the following:

1. Sexual Confidence (necessary)
   
2. Secret Society (a big bonus)
   

To have sexual confidence means to be comfortable talking about sex and have no issues related to sex. This means you don't change the subject as soon as a girl mentions sex, because you'll come across as insecure or intimidated. Instead, you talk about sex in a light, fun way, just like every other topic of conversation. Sex should be as natural as showering to you. But of course, you don't want to be try hard; going back to the topic of sex all the time because then you'll come across as insecure too, trying to compensate outwards for your lack of inner sexual confidence. An important non-verbal display of sexual confidence is kino escalation, without any physical touching, your interaction with a girl will feel very non-sexual. Initiating kino escalation at a late point will make her feel uncomfortable.

To not have issues related to sex means you are sexually non-judgmental: you don't judge people - in particular girls - for their sexual history, preference, promiscuity, or anything else. Everything is acceptable when it comes to sex. Don't react negatively to anything sexual she reveals about herself, if you do and she picks up on it, she'll either never sleep with you or hold back on sex until the two of you have enormous connection, because anything else would make her feel very uncomfortable.

Secret society is a meme presented by the pick up artist Tyler Durden. The idea is that most guys are outside of a secret society that consists of all girls, gay guys, and only a handful of straight guys. This secret society is all about sex: if you belong to it, you'll be in good hands because everybody sleeps with everyone inside this society. However, nobody talks about this society; its members will always strictly deny its existence and everything that goes on inside. Of course, there is no such society, but the idea is brilliant, and it might be hard to appreciate the idea of this "secret society" until you end up being one of the guys that are standing on the inside, having girls tell you all the nasty things they've done in the past. It's not something they would every tell their boyfriends, because they want these guys to see them as their princesses and treat them accordingly. But most girls have another side, one in which they are completely free to express their sexuality, and if their relationship with their boyfriends are bad, they'll long for that freedom again.

With regards to sexual charisma, the secret society boils down to the following:

1. Don't kiss and tell: let girls know you never reveal sexual secrets (you have discretion).
   
2. Create a "us against them" (them are all other guys and some clueless girls) feeling (in the context of sex and relationships).
   
3. Whatever she's done with other guys is irrelevant (you are sexually non-judgmental and understand her need for discretion).
   

These are the basics when it comes to sexual charisma: we can do better than simply avoiding being non-sexually appealing. We can actually work to be sexually appealing. Appearance is crucial to sexual appeal: you do not need to be good looking (although it surely helps), but you need to look good - your face, body, and everything you are wearing. And it goes beyond what you wear: having other girls laughing in your arms makes you look very good. This is the key difference between how men and women perceive physical attractiveness: we look only for replication value (objective beauty), while they look for indicators of both survival and replication value.

Facial expressions are very powerful when it comes to sexual charisma. In some of our facial expressions we are perceived as much more sexy than others. Most people don't control much of these expressions because they come unconsciously, and no efforts were ever made to become aware of the good and the bad ones, in order to re-internalize them. This is something that should be done. This is best done through recent photos and videos of you: analyze them to evaluate your looks, both in terms of beauty, but also sexyness. Do not get caught up in old memories while looking through the photos; this is the one time you aren't looking at pictures for that reason. You should use girls to help you with this evaluation whenever possible (be honest about the purpose and she'll give you direct answers).