A New Paradigm

This is the last part of my Learning PU series, and introduces a new paradigm for sarging. Although it certainly contains elements from other schools of thought, it is a new way of thinking about PU, relating the deepest mental structures of the mind to the most practical techniques.

It will, once and for all, remove the "inner vs outer game" separation.

With it, I will present a new foundation for your understanding of PU, but it is not only a PU model but a huge mental model for your mind. This is because ultimately, pick up is a mental skill. It is our understanding for women, men, and ourselves that gives us the opportunity to improve. Knowledge is mental. Skills are mental. Fear is mental. They are inside your head, and the power to conquer the minds and hearts of others comes from the power of your own mind.

So you say, "so this is inner game!" It is "inner" game in the sense that it is a model for your own mind yes, but what I am about to give you is not a set of cool beliefs that will boost your ego and make you more motivated or feel better about yourself.

No, I will assume that you are motivated, that you are not an idiot, that you already have some mental strengths (and some weaknesses), and from there, I will start showing you have to, well, change your mind. This distinction will soon become clearer.

This post is only meant as a bridge between my earlier "Learning PU" parts, and the upcoming model, and here I want to make you think twice about how you view PU today.

There is a great chance you joined the community because you weren't satisfied with your sexual life. You felt you couldn't get enough girls. You may have felt as if there was something wrong with you, something that needed to be fixed.

Of course, something needs to change if you want to improve. The question is only what, and most guys focus either one, or a combination, of two paradigms: the inner game paradigm, and the outer game paradigm.

The inner game paradigm is founded on the idea that your mental processes constitute the primary boundary for your potential to achieve more, and in particular, your beliefs. What we don't believe in, we don't achieve, and what we believe in, we do achieve. Consequently, "inner game guys" tend to be spiritual and unscientific. Taken to an extreme, it is one big mental masturbation orgy, based on selective perception and backwards rationalization. When everything must conform to your sense of reality, the real world sometimes becomes a distant place, and sadly, less real. This is why so many inner game guys talk a lot but never improve: to them it's all mental, mental masturbation. Of course, the inner game paradigm has its strength too: it is true that our beliefs can heavily limit us, and conversely, motivate us to achieve our dreams.

The outer game paradigm is founded on the idea that causality (cause and effect) is determined by physical, observable processes, namely your own actions. We are what we do. Outer game guys tend to hold a more scientific view, heavily relying on a deep understanding for female psychology. Taken to its extreme, it is the rejection of the self: I am a set of instructions, implemented in my brain, to perform various tasks, and my perspective/opinions doesn't matter. By acquiring better techniques (instructions), I will sarge better (perform task). Its strength lies in its ability to achieve fast results ("fake it til you make it"), its weakness in its inability to achieve core changes to the underlying structure of your mind (it's still fake, you can't relate to what you are doing). As a consequence, outer game guys tend to give unnatural impressions, and the longer you get to know them, the more vulnerable they become.

Ironically, naturals tend to prefer outer game, for the simple reason that they already have strong inner game and are hence looking for the concrete solutions. I know, because I was one of them.

With these observations in mind, one has to ask: is it possible to merge parts of the two into one, taking the best of both worlds and leaving out all of their weaknesses? Yes, it is possible, and actually not that hard if one is ready to drop some misconceptions that are deeply rooted in this community.

The details will be presented in later posts: they are huge and sometimes complex. Here, I will scheme through the big picture.

The intuitive idea is this: get a very deep understanding for who you are, then use both your core strength and weaknesses to your advantage rather than trying to change yourself at the core, then extend your core into other areas of your mind and find the set of behaviors ("techniques") that are congruent with this (very strong) image of yourself. All while doing the field work of course.

This way, you avoid the outer game weaknesses of "ignoring the self" while getting all the advantages of having congruent efficient techniques. You obviously get all the inner game advantages of shaping a strong set of beliefs, and you avoid the problem of constantly having to come back to the same problems (your core weaknesses), because instead of thinking you have to get rid of them, you identify with them and turn them into something that will work to your advantage (for a concrete example, vulnerabilities are DHVs!), and as a bonus, there is no need for bullshit beliefs like "I can get anyone I want". In fact, they won't be part of your core beliefs, and neither any extended set of beliefs, because you will find them to be completely useless.

To guide you through all these steps, I will write a lot of posts. First, I will introduce a model for how mental units can be represented, and use it to describe the basics. I will visualize the inner/outer game problems discussed above. Then, I will describe what the mind's core looks like, and how it works. You will then gain an increasing ability to change your own mind, and those of others. Finding behaviors congruent with your core identity will be an exercise in creativity: visualize what you would do in various situations based on a set of universal principles (the rules of calibration). Then do it in the field.

This was all for my five part series, and as you've seen, the better part still awaits. I hope to have gained your attention and made you rethink how PU is done; let me know by leaving a comment after reading the post (now!).